Women Are Naive Flirts

First and foremost, lets look at what Flirting (or coquetry) is all about. It is a playful alluring or sexual overture by one person to another subtly indicating an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, and can involve verbal communication as well as body language. A female flirt is referred to as a coquette and a male one a womanizer or 'player'. Flirting usually is an indirect expression of sexual interest as most direct approaches are met with a lot of scornful disapproval and frowns. Flirting using body language may be done by twisting or flicking the hair, eye contact, patting, brief hug, closeness etc. while flirting by verbal communication is mainly achieved through the tone of voice.

Will and Jada in a flirtatious pose

So how are women perceived as naive flirts? This is because most of them tend to be oblivious of the effect they are generating through their little deeds. A woman may be talking to a man and at the same time fluttering her eyelids, playing with her hair, licking her lips, rolling her eyes, giggling huskily, brushing her knees against his etc. To a man, this may interpret that the red light is on and he needs to go for the kill. It may turn out that the woman is unaware of the ripples she has created and that may make an a** out of her and the man. Some rescuing or understanding may be required in this situation. This is where I beg to insist that men should not always assume that such gestures are suggestive. It could actually mean that the lady in question is having fun, tremendously enjoying the man's company or just being friendly to this interesting and charming man. On the other hand, some women may flirt knowingly just to get a certain reaction from a man and satisfy their devious characters. For this category of women, anything and especially negative that comes their way is well deserved.

For a man who is into a relationship with a naive flirt, he may feel like it’s only a matter of time before the eventuality happens and she is enticed into an affair. This could cause a lot of drama, confusion and mistrust that could lead to his stomach churning every time he thinks of his girlfriend/spouse near another man. He may also feel out of control as he knows that his partner's encounter with men every other day is inevitable. He may choose to keep silent as he may have a feeling he could be overreacting but at the same time cannot help the sinking feeling every time he sees it happen. 


I strongly believe in the power of communication especially in such a situation. If a man believes that his girlfriend/spouse is a coquette, he should resolve to talk to her and let her know what she does and how it makes him feel. She may hit the roof with denial or irritation or may understand the connotation of it all and become aware of the underlying problem.  That will also make her aware of where to draw the line or give up flirting all together to avoid heartbreak and tumult as what may be innocent fun to one person could be outright cheating to another.


As for men and flirting, that deserves another post that is coming up very very soon.