Jenwaki's Life Bench

Talk of the dead coming to life right in front of your eyes. Yes, that is what the US music festival Coachella presented when Tupac's hologram performed "live" on stage in front of thousands of fans.   Tupac Shakur, a rapper has been dead since 1996 where he was murdered in some shooting. The high-definition projection of the gangsta rapper's image stood shirtless and incredibly life-like, from his signature tattoos, down to his Timberland boots and jewellery, exchanging lyrics ( Hail Mary , Come With Me , Gangsta Party ) with Snoop Dogg.  After a five-minute performance, Tupac's image is seen scattering and dissolving into the darkness.  The stunt has generated a wave of social media debate that had Tupac trending worldwide on Twitter with about 40 mentions a minute . As I watched the video, I couldn't help but become nostalgic as my mind raced back to the times I couldn't resist shaking my head to the beat of his music regardless of where I was. ...

And the saga concerning our pastors continues.... According to some investigations done by a local radio station, one popular Pastor with an equally popular church purportedly drove into a restaurant with a woman and it appeared that he was very drunk. He was reported to have started arguing with the woman right from the moment he got out of his vehicle at the parking lot into the restaurant. Once inside, the argument continued until the staff had no choice but to order them out.  On stepping outside, again the argument got quite heated to a point where the Pastor and the woman started fighting. Yeah right!! While driving into the restaurant, the security guards had noticed the reckless manner in which the Pastor drove and decided to keep an alert. So when one of the guards noticed them fighting at the parking lot, he was obliged to intervene as he figured someone might end up being seriously hurt. Apparently, that was the biggest mistake the guard made because t...

Do I like bus/ Matatu rides? Aside from being confined in a moving vessel and lets not forget that you are riding with a bunch of strangers who are conversing loudly in all kinds of manner or just quiet waiting to get to wherever they are going. Do I cringe if somebody sneezes or coughs as I imagine he/she could be ailing from some disease caused by some virus that is incurable and am about to get infected? Let me put it this way, I like to get into a bus/ matatu , sit and shut the hell up until I get to my destination. If you happen to be the social extrovert seated next to me, I am not your specimen for trying out your prowess on how best or quick you can make a stranger you just met pour her heart out to you. The only exception is when I have boarded the vehicle with someone I REALLY know. If I happen to find you inside and I DO KNOW you, then it will be small talk for a few minutes and then zip! I value my peace during my rides to wherever but that is not always the case as I a...

We claim to be in love or to love someone but how do we know when we have found love or how do we define this emotion that we would travel to the end of the world just to find it?  We sometimes ditch perfectly good relationships in the hopes of finding more of it or spend the majority of time thinking about, striving, praying, hoping, fantasizing for and yes, even seeing shrinks to affirm that you are probably about to get your wish fulfilled.   So how do we know for certain that we have it?"  Is it when we experience that initial rush of lust and excitement, the butterflies-in-our-stomach feeling that happens just at the mere sound of our lover's voice, the trembling and breathless moment when we think about him/her, or when we can’t seem to think straight because our lover is occupying more than half of our thoughts? We also know that these feelings come and go and sometimes we ask ourselves if we are still in love when the feeling goes.   Love an...

I sit on my desk, reading the post (link attached below), my heart pounding, not out of excitement but indignation at what the post is talking about. This is the umpteenth time I am reading (and have heard numerous complaints) about the issue and it has always left me disappointed and wondering when we ladies are going to style up and do something about it. We talk about how our men should do this, do that, to earn our respect and love but I guess we could be the problem they act in the way they do towards us. Men are also not blameless as they have encouraged and taken full advantage of the situation because they have discovered they get away with a lot of stuff and do not have to do much to get what they want. I aint no saint but I always feel sad when someone within their rights generalizes the whole issue making me one of those that are talked about in this post. I hate the way we all have opted to live, always putting on a public show that we got it all going on yet in real tru...

First and foremost, lets look at what Flirting (or coquetry ) is all about. It is a playful alluring or sexual overture by one person to another subtly indicating an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, and can involve verbal communication as well as body language. A female flirt is referred to as a coquette and a male one a womanizer or 'player'. Flirting usually is an indirect expression of sexual interest as most direct approaches are met with a lot of scornful disapproval and frowns. Flirting using body language may be done by twisting or flicking the hair, eye contact, patting, brief hug, closeness etc. while flirting by verbal communication is mainly achieved through the tone of voice. Will and Jada in a flirtatious pose So how are women perceived as naive flirts? This is because most of them tend to be oblivious of the effect they are generating through their little deeds. A woman may be talking to a man and at the same time fluttering h...

A says Woman is an attractive flower B says Woman is a beautiful gift C says Woman is a great source of comfort D says Woman has a sweet dialect E says Eastern or western, woman is the worthy F says Woman is a central figure of family G says Woman always glitters with the rays of her partner H says woman has holy spirits I says woman has basic institution in her lap J says woman is full of joy K says woman is head of kisses L says woman is lovely thing M says woman is a symbol of modesty N says nails increase the beauty of a woman O says woman is a pretty ornament P says woman is a princess Q says woman is a queen R says woman is a rare gift S says woman is a main source of survival of the human being T says woman has true spirits of love U says woman is as peaceful as an umbrella V says woman is a valley of love W says woman is a wafer X says woman has sweet kisses Y says woman is your jewellery z says woman has great zeal HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY!

Many people wonder if Internet Addiction is real or just some cooked up thing by internet users. It is actually very real. It can mess up your health, relationships and work performance to if you don’t come to the realization that you have a problem and work to overcome it. Case Scenario: Harriet arrives at work at 7.00a.m. one hour before her official time.  She enters her office, turns on the PC and the first thing she opens is the Internet Browser.  She further opens the social media sites (Facebook, Twitter,) and starts punching away addresses, usernames and passwords to access the sites. She smiles as she spots some notifications alerts begging for her attention. She peruses through all and then starts scrolling on the main page. She comments here, tweets there, likes here, shares there and even recommends over here. She continues to read some more comments and depending on the content, she either giggles, curses, laments or just stares back at the screen probably po...

When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know. Take it out on someone you don't know, but you know deserves it. I was sitting at my desk when I remembered A phone call I'd forgotten to make. I found the number and dialed it. A man answered, saying 'Hello..' I politely said, 'This is Rick. Could I please speak with Robyn Carter?' Suddenly a manic voice yelled out in my ear 'Get the right f***ing number!' And the phone was slammed down on me. I couldn't believe that anyone could be so rude. When I tracked down Robyn's correct number To call her, I found that I had accidentally transposed The last two digits. After hanging up with her, I decided to call the 'wrong' number again. When the same guy answered the phone, I yelled 'You're an asshole!' And hung up. I wrote his number down with the word 'asshole' next to it,...

There has been news circulating all over the country that men in Central Kenya specifically in Nyeri are getting twangwad (beaten) by their spouses. At first, it seemed like a unique case when it was reported on our local TV stations that some man had been badly wounded by his wife and was still nursing some nasty wounds. People really sympathized with the situation and wondered how beastly a woman can get. Before the dust could even settle regarding the revelation, other men started confessing publicly that they too had been getting the beatings and even had wounds to show. This is now where I beg to ask. Why are these men being battered by their wives? For one, I do not believe a woman would wake up one day, pick a panga and start slashing the husband for no apparent reason. According to Maendeleo Ya Wanawake Charlady Rukia Subow men will continue being twangwad if they do not put their act together. Women from Nyeri complain that their men no longer support them as a husba...

I decided to write this post about my favourite gal and Diva Stella Nyambura Mwangi because she has managed to capture both the local and international audience with her talent and splendor. When she first waltzed into the Kenyan scene, I used to argue with a couple of my friends that she was a Jamaican by origin until I read her profile. My fascination began thereon. Stella Nyambura Mwangi also known for stage name STL was born on 1 September 1986 in Nairobi. She  is a Norwegian-Kenyan Singer, Song Writer and Rapper. In 1991 Stella had to move to Norway with her family due to some political issues in her home country. She started to practice playing music when she was just eight years old. She is not just a singer, but also plays the piano. Kinanda, her latest album that features my favourite song "Lookie Lookie" Stella started her career back in 1998 as a recording artist, by joining African youth group The Rise where she released her first album ever Maroon . S...

Dear Mistress, It is after much reflection that I have chosen to write this letter. My hope is that it will get to you and many others who have chosen to break up homes. You see, to you am the faceless woman wife of the man you love so much. I have received your messages through some of my friends who felt the need to confront you about encouraging my husband to move out of his home into yours. The messages that came back to me are “Let anyone who has an issue with me talk to me herself” or “I didn’t even know he was married until it was too late.”  Too late for what? I didn’t send them to you, but now that you’ve chosen to send them to me, a response is inevitable. Not that I think it will make much of a difference to you or him, but your response got me thinking. That man you introduce to others as your boyfriend is my husband. He is the father of my three beautiful children. My children, who at such a tender age are struggling with rejection and an uncertain futu...

I know I have been a little bit quiet in posting something for you my dear reader and this is the reason why. I uuuummmm..... am not.....I haven't yet........hhmmm do I really have a reason not to have engaged you with my posts? I actually don't, which for me is such a shame as am sure some of you look forward to my posts, don't you ;-)? Anyway, here is something I thought is quite beautiful and rich for your read and for you to marvel at as you await for my very own. It has become like an anthem in my life and am honoured to share it with you. Read on. " People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that Person.. When someone is in your life for a REASON , it is usually to meet a need You have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with Guidance and support, o aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.they may seem like a godsend and ...

Many a times are when women are accused of carrying "junk" in their handbags that they don't need all at once.  Others accuse women of carrying their whole apartment in their handbags as they may not necessarily have to go back to the house to access some of the stuff, hence the name "sleepover handbags". Ladies, you do agree that we would literally be lost if we didn't carry most or all of the below mentioned item, don't you? Take a look at why we must have these items in our handbags. Money - Most certainly an obvious choice but think about that time when you have forgotten to put in some money in your handbag and have boarded a Matatu already late to go somewhere. You end up having some very embarrassing and inconveniencing moments which should have been avoided had there been money in your handbag. Mobile phone - A must if you don't want to have problems with people the following day after they have been calling and not getting a response f...

 I am sure most of you think I have made a typo with my heading and that the word mice is supposed to mean mince. You are damn wrong! Yap, I said it, mice meat, that's whats cooking today, so come join me as we prepare this delicious delicacy that Zimbabweans love so much. Right! The delicacy is full of proteins (actually recommended by health authorities). The mice are captured in the field after the harvest of corn/maize. This mainly happens in the month of April. They are dug from holes or trapped with roasted peanuts placed under a flat stone. Once the mice are captured, you then boil them in water and then dry them under a fire. Some people remove the furs but others prefer cooking them as is were is basis. The mice are then fried in a pan, oh QUITE TASTY  I hear. This a favorable dish especially for the drinking places that are frequented by men. Its served with Sadza (thick porridge) Zimbabwean staple food in Central Africa. Not all people prefer eating mice t...

Ever had that eerie feeling that someone is following you and no matter how many times you look behind, you cant seem to spot that which is following you but the feeling still haunts you? Trust your instincts, there is indeed someone if not something following you. It just hasn't gotten to you. There are people in your life that constantly give you this negative vibe that you cant seem to shake off or put your finger on exactly what it is that is negative about them.  More often than not, that person is actually cooking some very evil dose with a very filthy pot and intends to serve it to you when the time is right. This kind of a person is the average Joe or Mary. They smile at you when they wish they could spit on you, they make small pleasant talks with you when they wish they could be throwing all the obscenities at you, they even support you here and there when they wish they could be stomping all over you. All the niceties are just to cover their evil identity. Anything you...

STATEMENT FROM GOVERNMENT JOKESMAN Your Patriotic duty to Kenya. We all know that it is a sin for an al-shabaab male to see any woman naked other than his wife, and that he must commit suicide if he does. So, next Saturday at 2:00 pm all women living in Kenya--Nairobi especially, are asked to walk out of their houses, completely naked, to help weed out any neighbourhood terrorists. Circling your block for one hour is recommended for this anti-terrorist effort. All men are to position themselves in lawn chairs in- front of their houses to prove they are not al-shabaab, and to demonstrate that they think it's okay to see nude women other than their wives and to show support for all Kenyan women. And since the al-shabaab also does not approve of alcohol, a cold six-pack of Tusker at your side would be a further proof of your anti-Taliban sentiment. The Kenya Government appreciates your efforts to root out terrorists and applauds your participation in this an...

Rose Nasimiyu: You have watched her on Television, you have read about her in magazines and probably even posted a comment on her page in social media. She is a cancer patient who has the confidence of a girl way beyond her years. She wows you every time you see her talk. She is not afraid of the fact that she has a devastating disease.Yes, she is only nine years old with a very brave spirit. To her little friends, she is a princess and hence the name Princess Rose.  She has been undergoing treatment and is currently in UK for the same where she is expected back home early this year. She talks about her sickness with a lot of ease and determination and is quite knowledgeable about some few details regarding her sickness. She even sang about her determination to remain strong "I believe I'll live to see another day" in a quest to raise money to pay off her medical bills. She hopes to become a doctor when she grows up. May God give her healing so that her dream may become ...

Parenting can be the most challenging but rewarding and fulfilling thing people do during their lifetime.  Picture taking care of another human being from the time of infancy to the time the human has had enough of your bickering, snooping, scorning, brooding and stuff and left (figuratively or literally). As a parent, it is normal for one to keep asking themselves these questions that more often than not do not generate any satisfactory answers. "Am I an ideal parent? Will my child grow up to my expectations? If for some reason I ever make mistakes that will greatly impact on my child negatively, will I be able to live with it? Am I a role model to my child. Do I give enough support and care to my child? Does my child trust me?" Truth be told, no one knows how to be the parent of the year, even those we may think are the most experienced people. To begin with, parenting could come from our God given instincts.  We may get all kinds of advice, ideas, suggestions or criticis...